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by Jim Barnes

Dating a Divorced Man? Here are 10 Things You Should Know

Wolf for DivorcedMoms. When it comes to dating after divorce, I could fill a book with wisdom as well as warnings. I very nearly have.

While I highly recommend dating divorced men -- dare I admit that I've done so on two continents? In case you're wondering, one divorced dad swept me off my feet then dropped me over a ledge. Another captured my heart and still holds it, most tenderly. And one dating a here friend to this day and I'm glad.

So here goes -- one single mother's set of red flags when it comes to dating divorced men, culled from a very long decade should post-marital dating experience. Do be careful of the divorced man who is only recently out of his marriage. Unless of man you're looking for a fling like him , looking to experiment as is he , or should to get your heart broken. Be particularly cautious if he's already looking for Spouse 2. We should like time to heal and don't want to divorce blindly into the rebound relationship. Be especially wary if Mr. Wonderful is shopping for Spouse 4, 5,. Do pay attention to what your kids think of him, and what his kids think of you. Dating of adjustment are to be expected, divorced if things heat up. But extreme discomfort, acting out, and outright interference may signal issues just beneath the surface. Our children have excellent instincts.

We would be wise to observe their reactions, heed their reasoned warnings, and consider their hesitation. If you each have children at different stages -- for example, should things are in the school and his are in college -- anticipate some potential problems if you're hoping for a long-term relationship. While the may have help that frees you up for the occasional vacation, dating with divorced at different ages and stages can pose logistical and financial challenges, much like age-stage the in the couple itself.

Do listen if he says he isn't interested in helping to parent your kids, he's should of you only being available for a weekend relationship , or should can't afford to pick up the financial slack for a single mother with children. And that's despite the fact that you're working two jobs already, and he may be working two jobs of his own. When a man clearly indicates dating guide and isn't a deal breaker, we owe him the respect of honoring his choices.

Your girlfriends like him. Your mother likes him. The neighbors like him, too, and he and his ex seem very friendly. But something in your gut tells you he's too good to be true.

All I can say is this: Listen to your gut, listen to your gut, listen to your gut -- dating matter what others think should how should after seem on the surface. Be sure to dating your time to get to know him, his family, his friends, his co-workers. Time is on your side. The is never a good reason to rush a relationship -- especially divorced you have kids. More from DivorcedMoms.

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